She was pouring her heart out about her Ex in one of those "intimate stranger" moments that this Lyfting peer to peer ride sharing is all about. She was gorgeous but something in her makeup refused to know it. She lacked that Ivy League confidence and decisiveness that exudes attractiveness in our culture. Her Ex had dumped her a couple of years ago and is now retaliatory that she is dating one of his friends. Here's the part that resembles me, she really wants to be friends with the guy that dumped her. She still wants something from him.
"So what do you get out of it?" I asked after another story of his disregard and her unilaterally wanting to make it o.k.
"He is so decisive; he really knows what he wants. He is on his way to being successful, too and I want that."
"How does it make you feel when he texts you 'We are not friends and we never were?'"
"I feel like I am nothing; its like I will never be that... He is better than me." I could tell, she was embarrassed at what just came out of her mouth.
The chaplain in me asked..."Is that a true story? or is that a flawed story, you are telling yourself?"
She knew then....
With really good questions, the answers become experiences for which you don't need words.